Weddings can be challenging for sober folks. From booze drenched traditions to potential triggers, there is a lot to contend with. Even seemingly innocuous things can make sober or sober curious folks just feel left out.
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Non-alc offerings. Delicious and inclusive. Not only does this support your sober and sober-curious friends and family, but it supports more moderate alcohol consumption at the wedding without losing out on any of the tasty fun.
- An N/A signature cocktail. The signature cocktail has become a stylish reception staple. You can support those who are booze-free at your wedding by having a signature N/A cocktail too!
- Consider a sober table. Sober guests, especially those in recovery, might enjoy celebrating together.
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Have an inclusive toast. This normalizes the N/A option, helps sober folks feel more included and not “stick out” as much, includes folks who don’t drink alcohol for religious reasons, and encourages booze drinkers to try the N/A option when they might normally skip it which could lead to more folks opting for an N/A spacer drink and thus a less sloppy wedding over all
- Set the tone as an inclusive event in ALL capacities -- a rising tide lifts all boats. How you may ask? Avoid gender binary policing dress codes or decorations. Be cognizant of where your dollars are going, and contract vendors you want to support. Maybe skip the bouquet toss, or invite anyone or the kids to catch the bouquet, not just the “single women.” Include dietary options for food allergies and religious beliefs. Keep in mind financial diversity in your guest list.
- Have a bar, don’t have wine poured at the table. Perhaps place nonalcoholic options on the table and serve alcohol from the bar. Repeatedly declining can be a burden for your sober friend. Alternatively, place both alcoholic and nonalcoholic dinner drinks on the dinner table.
- Plan activities for the “cocktail hour” (if you have one). Maybe lawn games, or a “how well do you know the couple” game. Not only is this fun AF, but it helps people to connect and socialize. Newly sober friends may be re-learning how to socialize without “liquid courage,” and frankly, we could all use help after a year of isolation.